2 Hopeful Spinsters

Heather’s Valentine’s Day Aha Moment

As fate would have it, I tend to be single on Valentine’s Day.  And because of that, I suppose I’ve always had a bit of a chip on my shoulder about it.  In my 20’s, I often wore black, thinking I was being all “hip & maudlin” about “Singles Awareness Day,” as Hoda & Kathie Lee jokingly called it yesterday.  However, now that I’m in my 30’s, I usually just pretend it doesn’t exist until I need to satisfy my sweet tooth with some 75% off Valentine candy at CVS.  But this year was different…

Instead of hiding at home, ignoring the fact that it’s Valentine’s Day while emptying my DVR with a bottle of cheap wine & a pan of brownies, Dellany & I decided to go out.  We had no agenda except that we were going to have fun.  Now, I don’t want to spoil the video that we will post of some of the highlights of our evening, but I do want to share the new perspective I gained of Valentine’s Day.

Prior to last night, I only seemed to see “couples” EVERYWHERE I turned on Valentine’s day:  at the coffee shops, at the restaurants, at the movies, etc…And, quite frankly, it was depressing.  It was a reminder of what I DIDN’T have and I was sick of it.  But last night, I saw SO MANY different types of people celebrating this day of “love”: groups of men, groups of women, fellow Hopeful Spinsters, families, etc… Yes, there were couples strewn about, but it didn’t seem to bother me.  Because for the 1^st time, possibly EVER, I was able to really appreciate the love I do have in my life and not dwell on the love that I don’t.  It was a surprising and inspiring Valentine’s Day gift and I thank my fellow Hopeful Spinster, Dellany, for being an integral part of that. 

Love,

Heather

Dellany’s Valentines Day Musing

Happy Day after Valentine's everybody!  I am glowing from the most amazing night last night.  Without giving too much away from the Hopeful Spinsters soon-to-be-released video blog, I saw a beautiful sunset setting overlooking the city of Angels; had a single perfect rose, drinks, dining, a romantic film- sigh...  the perfect night with the perfect Hopeful Spinster :-) That's right- out of choice, I made the decision to spend last night with fellow hopeful spinster, Heather.  I made the decision to not go out with a man, not sit at home in front of the tube with my red velvet cake ice cream and not feel sorry for myself.  Why should I? I have so many things to be thankful for on a day where love is a many splendored thing…but also sometimes considered the root of all evil (depending how one looks at it).

I chose to celebrate in my friend and myself.  I care and love a lot of people and I know in my heart a lot of people care and love me. So why not celebrate that? It doesn't have to be defined by a commitment with a significant other. Since I reached the official “hopeful spinster age”, I have said, " gone are the days where I wince in pain at the idea of being alone on V day.  Gone are the days (pretty much allll of my 20's) where I wasted precious time and settled with someone who wasn't a good match and certainly not good enough for me just so I could say I was with someone on Valentine's Day". I found I was more miserable with candy in one hand, flowers in the other from some lame guy who didn't treat me well… than I was being "alone" . I can buy my own gifts for myself, thank you very much (more on that later)!  Last night felt liberating and exhilarating :-) I am truly inspired by last night and thinking of all the hopeful spinsters out there that are going thru what Heather and I are going thru.  I can't wait to share stories and become the woman I am meant to be thru this! Hopeful Spinsters Unite!

Xoxo, 

Dellany